Risk Zone 09/30/2010
When reading The Rock Warrior’s Way (Ilgner, 2006), a book designed to help climbers mentally train to overcome the fears associated with climbing, I noticed numerous connections between the warrior approach to climbing and a value-based approach to life. In one chapter, the author discusses choices and provides a diagram describing the battle between the allure of the comfort zone and the wisdom obtained by entering the risk zone. He equated the words risk and learning. To briefly summarize the diagram, the fear of the unknown (a.k.a., “phantom fear”) drives us into the comfort zone, while the desire to engage in life (a.k.a., “love force”) moves us into the risk/learning zone. A “resistance barrier” exists between the two zones and it requires a certain degree of effort to push through it into the risk zone. ![]() Adapted from Ilgner (2006) Consequently, when attempting to grow and learn, two forces tend to pull us in opposing directions. The unknown and appeal of feeling secure pull us toward the comfort zone, whereas the desire to grow and engage in life moves us into the risk zone. Because humans tend to seek comfort, the force that pulls us into the comfort zone is usually the stronger of the two and makes the pursuit of security seemingly effortless. The comfort zone epitomizes the short-term gain of approaching life safely, with “knowns” and a sense of security. Remaining in a comfort zone also comes with costs. When phantom fear dictates a life in the comfort zone, it can be easy to find yourself disappointingly stagnant and having sacrificed passion, love, knowledge, etc. Life in the comfort zone may seem so easy that to think of it as a choice seems bizarre. Make no mistake; though easier at times, choosing comfort over risk is in fact a choice. For instance, you could always quit your job and accept the consequences. The choice to quit may lead to bankruptcy, the inability to provide for your family, and homelessness, whereas choosing to remain employed would offer financial security and allow you to buy groceries for your family as well as pay your mortgage. In that case, the choice to remain employed is a “no-brainer.” On the other hand, if quitting would not have such a detrimental effect and you find the financial loss worth the time to develop other parts of your life, you may decide that entering the risk affords you opportunities that offset the economic blow. Some low-risk, day-to-day examples that can bring you into the risk/learning zone may include: · ordering an item on a menu that you do not normally eat o potential risk: dissatisfaction with dinner o learning/growth opportunity: trying something new · giving up a good parking spot to go to a concert with friends o potential risk: losing the parking spot o learning/growth opportunity: hearing a new band · taking on a new responsibility at work o potential risk: higher stress level; poor performance o learning/growth opportunity: new skill set · going on vacation even though you “don’t have the time” o potential risk: putting tasks off for a week or rushing to complete tasks o learning/growth opportunity: experience something new; relax; have fun · skipping the gym to see your son’s soccer game o potential risk: weight gain; lethargy; feeling unhealthy o learning/growth opportunity: foster relationship with son The choices that lead you to engage in life by entering the risk/learning zone are endless and depend on your values. Of course, as Ilgner (2006) reminds the reader, foolish risks are also not advisable. He discusses that a proper risk assessment of a climb includes analyzing the route, the fall consequence, and the climber. To expand the model to non-climbing circumstances, a thorough risk assessment involves an objective cost-benefit analysis of the choice at hand, paired with an understanding of your ability to pursue the consequences of that decision and the subsequent journey. After obtaining a clear vision of what the risk entails, a decision can be made and the path can be followed. Once the choice is made to engage with life and move away from the comfort zone, the time comes to commit to the decision with full and deliberate attention. Fear and the general allure of comfort will try to seduce you back into the comfort zone. Consequently, the commitment to engage in life is a daily choice. Are your daily decisions based on comfort or are you actively choosing to live each moment in a way that you desire? What about bigger lifer choices? Pay attention to comfort and risk zones as well as the forces that pull you toward either of those zones. | AuthorDr. Bridgett Ross is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and owner of Ross Psychology.
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